I’ve never talked to anyone. I’m used to handling things on my own. Aren’t people who go to therapy weak?

Not at all. People who ask for help know when they need it and have the courage to reach out. Everyone needs help now and then. In our work together, I’ll help you explore and identify your strengths and how to implement them to reduce the influence of the problems you are facing.

What’s the difference between talking to you or my best friend or family?

The difference is between someone who can do something, and someone who has the training and experience to do that same thing professionally. A mental health professional can help you approach your situation in a new way– teach you new skills, gain different perspectives, listen to you without judgment or expectations, and help you listen to yourself. Furthermore, counseling is completely confidential. You won’t have to worry about others “knowing my business.” Lastly, if your situation provokes a great deal of negative emotion, and you’ve been confiding in a friend or family member, there is the risk that once you are feeling better you could start avoiding that person so you aren’t reminded of this difficult time in your life.

Why shouldn’t I just take medication?

Medication can be effective but it alone cannot solve all issues. Sometimes medication is needed in conjunction with counseling. Our work together is designed to explore and unpack the problems you are experiencing and expand on your strengths that can help you accomplish your personal goals.

How does it work? What do I have to do in sessions?

Because each person has different issues and goals for counseling, it will be different depending on the the needs of each person and their  lived experiences.  I tailor my therapeutic approach to your specific needs.  You may have life work to support you in connecting with your emotions.  You may be asked some questions and sometime you may be asked to sit in a bit discomfort in order to reach your therapeutic goals.  You will never be asked to move faster than you are emotionally prepared to experience or express.  You will never be asked to do anything or to speak about anything you are not ready to explore or speak about.  You are in control of your session.  

How long will it take?

Unfortunately, this is not possible to say in a general FAQs page. Everyone’s circumstances are unique to them and the length of time counseling can take to allow you to accomplish your goals depends on your desire for personal development, your commitment, and the factors that are driving you to seek counseling in the first place.  

I want to get the most out of therapy. What can I do to help?

I am so glad you are dedicated to getting the most out of your sessions. Your active participation and dedication will be crucial to your success.  Showing up, being physically, mentally and emotionally present,  honoring your scheduled appointment, being as honest as you possibly can about your feelings and insights will support your experience toward meeting your treatment goals. You are not expected to be perfect or clinical.  Just be authentically you.  

Managing expectations?

Sometimes we hold expectations of others without realizing it.  While  there is no perfection, showing up,  keeping commitments and honoring our word goes a long way in keeping us all accountable and moving toward an authentic connection.  We are all traveling this life's journey and finding our way.  My commitment to every client is to be present, professional and genuinely compassionate.  

How will I know if you are good fit for me?  

You know you better than anyone.  You know what works for you and what doesn't.  I will also do a pre-assessment to determine if I, as a clinician, am equipped to address your therapeutic needs.  Your mental and emotional health needs are important and never taken lightly. Having said that,   sometimes there will be uncomfortable moments, and , everything can be used as part of the work.  Sometimes a therapeutic alliance is a good fit and sometimes not.  And that is okay.  Everything and everyone doesn't work for everybody.  However, there is room to talk through anything in the safe and confidential space created in our therapeutic alliance. 

What is the "work"?

I often refer to therapy as "doing the work".  I consider therapy an inside out job.  Meaning, shifts and change can be subtle at times and other times powerful and momentous.  It is taking the time to place your development and healing as a priority.  You make room for you and your inner self.  Willingness to sit still in your thoughts and feelings, connect the dots and find your inner voice by using your voice.